Recover from infidelity trauma and reclaim your life

Book a FREE Clarity Call... →

What is infidelity trauma?

‘Infidelity trauma’ is distress experienced when there is a betrayal within a romantic relationship that can take the form of infidelity or financial betrayal which can also provoke a trauma response. The discovery of infidelity often leads to the loss of self-esteem and self-worth, numbness, anger, guilt, difficulty controlling emotions, intrusive thoughts about affair details, loss of faith in others, suspicion and hypervigilance, depression, anxiety, and other mental health symptoms, physical symptoms, including insomnia, pain, and stomach distress. While trauma can be physical, it is often emotional and psychological. If someone close to you has ever broken your trust, you’ve probably felt the sting of betrayal. This pain can leave deep wounds. Any type of betrayal can cause emotional distress, but you might experience lingering trauma when someone you depend on to respect your needs and generally help safeguard your well-being violates the trust you’ve placed in them. This trauma involves understanding attachment theory as your earliest childhood relationships are so significant because they lay the groundwork for later relationships. When these bonds are strong and secure, they pave the way toward secure attachments in adulthood. Insecure bonds, on the other hand, often lead to shaky or troubled relationships. Intimate relationships are meant to provide secure attachment and rest on agreements — the boundaries defining the relationship. Partners in a monogamous relationship, for example, generally have some shared understanding of what defines cheating and agree to trust each other not to cheat. A partner who cheats betrays the terms of that understanding.

When we experience trauma, we can become emotionally dysregulated as our anxiety and overwhelm increases. That arousal of emotions triggers our fight or flight mechanism, leading to panic/ fear driven emotions as our sympathetic nervous system becomes activated. When we become overwhelmed by this mechanism, we can often become frozen by it, dissociating, shutting down and feeling hopeless. Left unprocessed, traumas can also reshape our core self and make us unable to function. We might feel a host of emotions, some of which are explained in this diagram:

At Naked Infidelity, we deliver a structured and supportive 4-month coaching program to support the healing and recovery from such a trauma by teaching techniques to stabilize and deactivate that trauma response. Recovering from infidelity trauma involves both perspectives of the victim as well as the offender — both of which are the focus of Naked Infidelity. Run by Adele Theron, a highly trained Trauma coach, this coaching approach helps you to pinpoint and project manage the triggers from that traumatic time which continue to live on in your day to day life. Whereas therapy focuses on the trauma itself, coaching focuses on strategies and tools to move forward. Coaching is a forward-focused approach which builds healing strategies to deal with those triggers that come up in your day to day life, teaching you to deal with them proactively. This coaching approach is educational and builds insight, so you can learn how to support yourself to overcome the overwhelm mechanism using a host of techniques you will learn on the program. The program is not designed for people who have acute psychiatric conditions. Those conditions are better supported with medicalised support. If you want to check if the program is a good fit for you, book a Clarity Call with someone on our team to talk through if the coaching approach is a good fit for your situation.

What you might be going through in the early stages following trauma

With trauma, almost everyone will feel jumpy, and it is normal to have intrusive memories of events or things said. Approximately two out of three of people will find that these symptoms fade over time. Other people may find that negative symptoms emerge sometime after the trauma occurred and almost seem to come “out of the blue”. This can seem very confusing, and they may ask themselves “why now?”. The truth is that certain events can trigger Post Traumatic Stress in some people and if not treated, can lead to long-term issues…

Problems sleeping
Problems concentrating or remembering things
Feeling hypervigilant
Upsetting memories come into your mind when you don’t want them to
Intense memories where it feels as though the trauma is happening to you again
Feeling physically and emotionally upset
Feeling disconnected or numb
Feelings of guilt/ shame or panic

There is another way... horrible events can be processed and recovered from. Your traumas don't have to rule your life..

Hear how others have recovered from trauma…

Don't just ride the rollercoaster of trauma. Take back control today...

Living with trauma can cause significant health issues both physically and mentally. But with courage, commitment, and action – you can recover and reclaim your life.



Data: Web MD study conducted in 2019 – check statistics here:



Data: National Center for Biotechnology Information



Data: National Center for Biotechnology Information

We serve customers from all across the world. We can serve you too.

Infidelity Trauma Recovery Program Curriculum


Divorce CocoonWe will start with your first session to assess and take a client and clinical history. The first module is focused on restoring balance and creating stabilization. Before we do any processing, we first need to empower you to become grounded and emotionally stable. To begin, you’ll create a strong solid foundation so you have a supportive environment to contain your transformation.

  • We will cover goal setting so we have a clear starting position, ending position and mission
  • The next session we look at your symptoms and put a plan in place to alleviate the stress of those symptoms. We will be looking at daily routines, diet, structure, habits, thought diaries etc. I will assess and give you specific homework, monitoring your progress
  • You will be given special clinical audios to listen to and taught how to resource yourself, to feel completely stabilized
  • You will be in a COCOON – this is the goal

The second module empowers you to practice self-compassion. Self-compassion is a very powerful resource tool which assists in trauma recovery. Often we destroy any lessons we might learn from events which happened because we are so stuck in self loathing or self flagellation. This is unhelpful and unkind to ourselves. Self compassion melts shame, guilt, despair and assists us in building resilience and strength. It’s a very important tool to learn for recovery.

MetamorphosisHere the true healing begins. Inside the cocoon, the caterpillar is rapidly healing and changing, preparing to burst out as a beautiful butterfly. A caterpillar CANNOT grow wings without being contained but once contained, the real work can begin…

  • You will outline the principles, mission statement and framework of how you want your life post trauma to look
  • Attachment theory and betrayal
  • Offender vs. Victim
  • Getting out of the Drama Triangle
  • We will study your triggers in day to day life and look at the anxious avoidance and depressive avoidance strategies you have adopted to recover. Once ready and resourced, we will begin your Histogram highpoints and lowpoints story whilst continuing the routines and disciplines we have learnt so you are contained throughout the journey
  • We will identify all the top trauma hot spots
  • You will learn 12 techniques to self regulate your emotions and neutralise your triggers and in turn, clarify your needs. We focus on several techniques including TRE, Somatic Trauma Processing, Hakomi breathwork,  Mindfulness, Dialectical Behavioural techniques and Timeline therapy techniques so you can ground yourself and deactivate the trauma response
  • We also utilise relaxation audio programs to assist in the resourcing process
  • We will do trauma formulations and forward focused techniques using Polyvagel theory on all those hot spots to neutralize them, understanding the cognitive dissonances which have occurred.
  • We will work on neutralizing your coping mechanisms which have produced negative outcomes for you
  • We might additionally make use of other therapies during this step

ReleaseWe continue supporting you in learning different techniques until you feel more empowered to deactivate your own trauma response, you’re now ready to work on your future, dreams and desires.
Get back in touch with yourself again, change beliefs, set boundaries, and reclaim your life.

  • We will then work on designing your future
  • We will teach you communication techniques to better communicate your needs with each other and signpost triggers
  • Learning forward-focused-techniques for living a great life

Get in Touch

Book a Clarity call or email the team
your questions and we will answer ASAP

We are obsessed with great communication. To make sure we continue to be
the best in the industry, ask us anything, and we will get back to you…